You
may have met and fallen for each other. But the person you met and fell
for could have been acting for you. Months later you realize there’s
something off about your significant other. Often, people stay in bad
relationships or relationships that have “something that’s a bit off”
which in turn interferes with their happiness and consequently their
quality of life. All that can be avoided but only when you look out for
the signs in your significant other and today we tackle “signs he’s not
the man for you”.
1. You have a feeling that you should get out
Is your gut feeling telling you to run for the hills? By all means do
listen to that gut of yours!In case you ever find yourself confiding in
a friend that you’re either scared for your life because your man has
potential to harm you or because you’re just not happy with him anymore.
Or maybe the sight of him annoys you or your moods change every time
you’re together, and his cons outweigh his pros and to cap it all, your
gut feeling is doing its thing… He’s not the man for you!
2. He’s just too busy…even for you
If this is the case, it just means that your man has his priorities
mixed up. If you rarely see him because he’s just too busy and cannot
make time for you then honey, he would be better off in a relationship
with himself or his work. You and your children (if there are any
involved) will always come second or third in his life as he is already
‘taken’. He will always be unavailable to you.
3. He does not fit in with your circle of friends
Your man and your friends don’t blend. Whenever you try to indulge
your friends and your boyfriend he always just looks out of place. He
sits quietly at some corner looking all broody and constantly gives you
the look that he wants to leave. This happens even when you’re hanging
out with your family. For a happy relationship you need to have other
people in your circle. People to help you think, love and laugh. To help
you build and share in the joys of life and to fill in the blanks where
some characters are needed in the play called life. Otherwise you’ll
end up just the two of you ….alone and bored with each other forever!
4. Whenever in public he expects you to pretend to be someone you’re not!
If your man rarely invites you to hang out with his friends or if he
does he expects you to act in a certain way so that you don’t embarrass
him…he’s definitely not the man for you. Your man should never be
embarrassed of you. When he met you, he liked you the way you are and
you changing was not in the cards. You entered the relationship knowing
that you felt something mutual for each other so when you find him
getting embarrassed of you it means he is capable of disowning you
someday just because he’s too embarrassed to be associated with you.
5. If you’re with him just because of his potential
If you can’t stand him in the present because maybe he’s broke and
classless but you know he’s yet to get his big break because he works
too darn hard then you’re lying to yourself and to him. If you don’t
love him when he’s broke your feelings won’t change when he’s baked.
He’s also not a fool because he also observes how you treat him. So, if
his potential is what has you together, chances are that things will
just not work out between the two of you heavy bank account or
otherwise.
6. If you’re constantly trying to fix him to suit your needs
The only person that you’re capable of changing-ever!-is yourself.
This is almost the same as making excuses for your man’s bad behavior
because you’re trying to make people see the lie that he’s clearly not.
No man is perfect but you have the option to choose someone who will be
perfect for you from the word go. If you find yourself trying to fix
your man to suit your needs then clearly he is not the man for you. 7. If you’re with him because he’s the only person who’s asked…
Lying to yourself much? If under normal circumstances this man would
not be your first, 2nd or 3rd choice but here you are with him because
you’ve been single and alone for what? has it been 2 months already? and
you’re just scared of being alone…You. Will. Never. Be. Happy.With.
Him. Cut the poor guy some slack.
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